Project Self Confidence: Strengthening Your Self-Confidence While Relating with Others

1. Own 100% of Your Own Mistakes and Shortcomings

Take full responsibility for your own failures and mistakes; avoid shouldering others' failures. Differentiate between what you can and cannot control; only be responsible for things within your stewardship. Recognize that owning someone else's problems sets everyone up for failure.

To-Do: Clarify your responsibilities, own what you can control, and avoid taking on others' behaviors, actions, or reactions.

2. Find Your Voice by Sharing It

Everyone deserves to have a voice that is heard and respected. Your voice should not be earned; it is your right. Grow it by staying informed and forming independent opinions. Express emotions; unexpressed feelings can imprison you.

To-Do: Push yourself to speak up, especially if you tend to be a pleaser. Share your thoughts, even if uncomfortable, and use the "Yes and" method to add your perspective to discussions.

3. Leveraging the Differences Between Facts and Interpretations

Differentiate between facts (objective, verifiable) and interpretations (subjective). Most self-judgments come from interpretations, so cultivating healthier interpretations is crucial. Challenge interpretations, ask for facts, and make your self-esteem based on objectively looking at facts.

To-Do: Distinguish between facts and interpretations when someone makes a statement. Ask for the facts behind their interpretations and formulate healthier interpretations based on objective facts.

4. Practice Being 100% Yourself

Avoid the "Mrs. Doubtfire Dilemma": Faking a version of yourself for acceptance. It's okay to adjust in certain situations, but never compromise your morals, values, or principles. Being authentic reduces stress in relationships and contributes to their success.

To-Do: Embrace vulnerability and intentionally practice being your authentic self. Avoid the stress of maintaining a facade and allow others to connect with the real you.

These principles aim to empower you to navigate relationships with confidence and authenticity, fostering healthy connections and self-esteem.