3 Types of Communication: How mastering them can strengthen your relationships

Communication is not just a natural occurrence but a deliberate act. The first step to improving communication is understanding its goals. In essence, communication serves several purposes: to inform, persuade, co-regulate emotion, manage expectations, entertain, and bond.

Inform & Persuade

When we communicate to inform, we share data without necessarily seeking a specific action. This distinction becomes crucial – a mere statement doesn’t imply a request for change. Conversely, persuasion involves a delicate balance; being upfront about the desired change while approaching the conversation gently can prevent resistance.

Co-Regulate & Manage Expectations

Communication can be a powerful tool to co-regulate emotions. By listening and empathizing, we can mitigate emotional outbursts, strengthening the emotional bond between individuals. Additionally, managing expectations becomes pivotal in relationships. By openly discussing desires and boundaries, couples can maximize pleasure and minimize pain.

Entertain & Bond

Entertaining communication, often seen in playful conversations, serves as a means to alleviate boredom and strengthen connections. Communication can profoundly bond individuals, releasing oxytocin and fostering emotional closeness.

My approach emphasizes being intentional in communication. Being aware of the purpose behind a conversation and stating it explicitly can prevent misunderstandings and emotional discord. My advice challenges the conventional assumption that communication is innate. Instead, I advocate for active learning and intentional communication.